A Bad Marriage Is Fattening
Can a bad marriage really be fattening? Yes it can! In my own bad marriage I went from 125 pounds to 275 pounds 20 years later. This is the story of how my unhappy marriage made me fat — and how I divorced my husband and moved on to a happier new life.


Do you remember the story of Scheherazade?  I’ll refresh your memory.

A Persian king named Shahryar has a new bride.  He discovers his wife has been unfaithful to him so he has her executed.  The king is very angry that his wife has cheated on him so he declares that all women are unfaithful.  The king marries a new virgin every day only to have her beheaded the following morning.  The king ends up killing three thousand virgin women.  The vizier, whose job it is to provide virgins for the king, cannot find any more virgins.  Scheherazade, the vizier’s daughter, offers to be the king’s next bride.  On the night of their marriage, Scheherazade tells the king a story, but does not end it.  The king postpones Scheherazade’s execution in order to hear the end of the story the following night.  The next night Scheherazade finishes the story, but then begins a new story.  The king eager to hear the end of the new story postpones Scheherazade’s execution once again.  And so it goes for 1,001 nights.

Dear reader, I have a confession to make.  I feel a lot like Scheherazade.  Scheherazade was a storyteller and so am I.

I was hoping to get you so captivated with my story about how my bad marriage made me fat, that like the king who kept postponing Scheherazade’s execution, you would postpone asking me about my plans to lose my weight in 2010 and how I planned to do it.

But my sister-in-law called me and said, “I’m enjoying your blog, but when are you going to give your readers some accountability about how you plan to lose your weight?”

There it was, that word, accountability.

In the back of my mind I visualized Paul making fun of me.

“Accountability?  Oh, that’s a good one.  Yes, Joanie, why don’t you show the world your accountability?  You always say that you are going to lose weight but then you never follow through.”

“Maybe this time I will lose my weight, Paul.”

“I know you – you won’t.”

“You don’t know me at all.”

“Oh, I know you alright.”



“Do you really think anyone is going to actually read what you’re writing on the Internet, Joanie?”

“Yes, I do.”

“Well, I think you’re wasting your time.”



Dear reader, I don’t know why it is, but every time I have even an imaginary conversation with Paul we always end up arguing.

“You’ve always wanted Paul’s approval that you were a writer and he has always put your writing down,” a voice inside of me says.

“That’s true, ” I say to the voice inside of me.  “Who are you?”

“I’m your voice of accountability.”

“I don’t have a voice of accountability.  Paul’s right, I never really follow through when it comes to losing my weight.”

“But this time it’s going to be different.  This time you’re going to follow through.”

“What’s so different about this time when I’ve failed so many times before?”

“This time you’re going to be accountable and this time you’re going to have a plan.”

I have no idea who this voice is inside of me.  All I know is that I’m going to follow it.



1.     I will weigh myself once a week on Monday mornings and faithfully report what I weigh (no matter what the scale says) on my blog.  (I can’t believe what I’m getting myself into!)

2.     I will not skip meals.  I will eat breakfast, lunch and dinner.  (This is a gigantic commitment for me.  I like to skip breakfast and lunch, then eat anything I want for dinner.)

3.     I will keep a food diary of everything I eat.  (Must I?  Isn’t that a little obsessive compulsive?  Okay, as much as I’m going to hate it, I’ll do it.)


1.     I will walk a minimum of 2 miles a day, 7 days a week on my Sit-to-Walkstation.  If I want to walk more that is my option.  (Finally, something easy I can do!)

2.     I will go to my water aerobic class twice a week.  (But if it’s pouring rain I’m not going, even though the pool is indoors and is heated to 94 degrees.  I do not like driving when it’s pouring rain.)

Okay, dear reader, so now you have it.  What I’m going to do in 2010 to be accountable to myself so that I can lose my weight.  And, of course, I’ll continue writing my blog about how A BAD MARRIAGE IS FATTENING.

10 Responses to “Accountability”

  1. Loved the beginning and the end. You have goals that are specific and can be met. Go for it!

  2. This is great! I need to do something like this. For me, weight loss this year is vital.

  3. I’m on phitter & wound up over here. My husband of 20 yrs is an extremely nice person, but I feel like he doesn’t really know what love or happiness is, and so he just doesn’t understand why it’s a sacrifice to stay with him considering we haven’t had sex in over 3 yrs, and then another 3 yrs before that, and then less than 4 times a year prior to that. I tried to dump him, and began losing weight immediately. I relented and when we got back together, the weight came back on. Just because hes’ a nice person doesn’t mean the marriage is good. I’m now an avid reader of your blog. Thank you for having the courage to write the truth.

  4. great reading – I look forward to seeing more and following the results!

  5. Very interesting – I will follow your story and progress for sure!

  6. You go girl! You can do it! 🙂

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